Friday, December 27, 2013

Gratitude 2013

Just five more days and it will be time to bid adieu to 2013. Jogging my memory for a quick review of what 2013 offered me.

To begin with, i had planned that this would be my year of HEALING.

The year started with a wonderful discovery. I grew up in Allahabad and for a long time felt deeply nostalgic. I felt a strong pull to visit Allahabad. I would surf the net to get info about the town and on one such search i discovered to my utter surprise that 2013 was the year of Mahakumbh. I could not believe this at first but when the news finally sunk in, i drooped all plans and put Allahabad on top of my travel plans. And the year kick started with a life changing experience at he Mahakumbh with my elder daughter.

I traveled to Allahabad via Varanasi and got to  go through the town briefly and visit thee Kashi Vishwanath temple, one of the 12 Jyotirlingas.

I visited Allahabad after 36 years. And my joy knew no bounds when i made a second trip to the town and had an opportunity to attend a grand function at my Alma mater St Mary's convent.

My next travel trip was to Madurai. I  read about the ten day temple festival in Meenakshi temple and decoded there was no way i could miss the celestial wedding of  Lord Siva aka Sounderaeshar to Meenakshi. So hubby and i packed out bags and flew to Madurai even though we did not know a soul there

The Celestial wedding in action in Meenakshi Temple In Madurai.
The ticket for the Celestial wedding

. The very friendly hotel staff and the locals made our trip extremely beautiful . During thee connecting flight and halt at Chennai we had just enough tie to visit a friend who was kind enough to take us to Marina beach. Spent a lovely thirty minutes at the beach.

The travel tale continued......

When my elder daughter expressed a desire for an International holiday, i spontaneously planned a trip to Thailand. We had the most awesome family holdup in Pattaya and Bangkok and came hoe with wonderful memories . without any doubt the highlight  of the trip was the day spent at Safari World , up close and personal with animals.

 Totally fell in love with these Orangutans.

Some other highlights

The younger daughter starting her career in Hospitality with a reputed Hotel chain

The elder daughter finally getting her much awaited dream job.

Settling scores with two negatives in my life. Aaaaaaah, the joy of calling a spade a spade :)

Saving the best for the last, becoming a published author with my debut Travelogue

, BARFANI BABA, to Amarnath Happily.

2013 you have given me far more than i ever anticipated. The two greatest gifts have been Healing anf contentment. Hence i wrote the post, The Autumn of My Life..  The feel good factor cntined at the year end when i decided to reflect on all the good things 2013 had offered and wrote three posts in two hours:

Little Moments of Happiness 4

Little Moments of Happiness 5

Little Moments of Happiness 6

Any resolutions for 2014? Only one:


Any major hopes and expectations from 2014?

Just TWO!!

Let us see whether these two expectations come true in 2014.

For now it is time to say, GRATITUDE 2013. You have been an awesome year!

Sunday, December 15, 2013

Little moments of Happiness 6

Setting goals and running a marathon after them.

When life gives you ample reasons to embrace gratitude.

The color of Agni,  deep  orange.

Being kissed by a couple of Orangoutans in Thailand.

Feeding giraffes up close and personal in Thailand.

Offering Lotus flower in the temple.

Sipping green tea with loved ones.

The bliss of having walked through the storm as a survivor.

A vegetarian Sushi meal.

Nail art.

A day at the spa.


The joys of slowing down.

The jingle of pajeb.

Two back to back visits to your childhood town.

Old photographs of my girls in  'Himachal ki kali' attire.

Reading quotes by Ann Frank.

A Helicopter ride.

Cheese Omlettee.

A Dolphin show.

Little Moments of Happiness 5

Dahlias and Chrysanthemum dancing in the Winter breeze.

Eating a custard Apple just to revive childhood memories.

Discovering a succulent new fruit called RAAMPHAL.

Going through my Book collection.

Drinking Chaaj at Sagar Ratna.

Eating salted cashew nuts in Winters.

Gifting home made chocolates at Diwali.

A three course meal for Rs 99 at Pizza Hut.

Attending a scintillating Annual Day function in my neighborhood school.

Kada prasad at  the local Gurudwara.

Listening  to a live recital of 'Ek Radha ek Meera, dono ne Shyam ko chaha....".

Thee sight of a vibrant rainbow colored lahariya odhni.

Buying ethnic studded  jhumkas from an exhibition.

Attending a  Lifestyle exhibition under the open wintry Sun.

Whipping up a quick breakfast of potato and cheese bread rolls with coriander chutney for the family.

Stopping by at a dhaba that is surrounded by lush green fields.

A burst of huge beaming Sunflowers along side of a highway.

Once- in- six months treat of a meetha Paan.

Sitting in the passenger treat while your kids drive you around.

The sound of  bells of the neighborhood temple as you go for an early morning prayer.

Little Moments of Happiness 4

Listening to Arif Lohar sing Jugni, complete with the Chimta

Snuggling into the quilt  for an extra two hours in the morning on a wintry day

When your younger kid announces she is coming home to spend the weekend

A family outing comprising of an English movie followed by a meal

Becoming a Vegetarian

Embracing the spiritual life

Tucking into a meal of Hakka noodles and sauteed  Broccoli, Black mushrooms and tender bamboo shoots

A jumbo size Virgin Mojito

Watching Sachin with mousatches in advertisement

Enjoying a meal of Mushroom-do- Pyaza at the highway dhaba

Buying Imli candies at the highway dhaba

Watching tow soldiers  open a five tier home cooked food and gulp it down with masala Chai at the highway dhaba

That moment when you are biting into stuffed tandoori parantha and the Dhaba plays your favorite song...'kisi nazar ko ter intezaar aaj bhi hai :)"

An impromptu visit to a sprawling Shiva temple on the highway

Endless discussions with Mum over the phone

Gifting Hubby a collage of photographs from  those youthful days

Watching your kids Para sail for the first time

Taking your kids to a holiday to your maternal ancestral  home town

Reviving patchy  childhood memories by endless talks with your parents 

Daring yourself to go  riding on a motor bike  wishing across the azure blue waters of coral island in Pattaya

Monday, November 4, 2013


Just a day after Deepawali i am writing a post. A post on 'Autumn of my Life.'

Being a sensitive Pisces and a dreamer, the challenges in my life left me drained at many crossroads. But one thing that i never gave up was Belief.  Belief in the Almighty and belief in  goodness reaping goodness.

It takes a while to understand that not all of your dreams may come true. It takes a while to understand that some pleasant beautiful surprises are in store for you. It takes the Autumn of your life to slow  you down and  teach you to take life one day at a time.

The pangs of parenting hone your maternal feelings. You want nothing buttt he best for your child.  And pretty often your dreams go awry. Possibly because you have set perspectives on wants and needs. But life teaches you to see  beyond the fence. To redefine  your goals. Accept life's symphony which is made up of both white and black keys.

Once again belief cushions the disappointmenst. Belief in the Almighty gives  you the patience and courage to accept the difficult times and rejoice during the good times.

But above all the Autumn of my life has taught me to count my blessings.  The greatest blessing any human being can have is a loving family. As you apply brakes on your lofty dreams  in the Autumn of your life, you begin to see the glass as half full.

There was a time when we had shifted from a south  Delhi home to Faridabad in the 90s. There was dissatisfaction galore at the  starkly different lifestyles. But today  I feel content. I live in a neighborhood where i  know most of my immediate neighbors and there is this is old world charming feeling of a mohallah.. As we adjusted to living in the new locale, the town, the neighbors and everything else started to make sense. 

One of the biggest blessings of my neighborhood is the Shiv Shakti Mandir . Any time i feel restless on account of pending tasks of life, I simply put on my shoes, comb my hair and visit the temple.

There is a beautiful JYOTIRLINGA  temple of all the 12 Shiva lingams  and right  opposite is the ARDH Shakti PARVATI  temple inside the temple premises. These two temples weer added on recently and i had the good fortune of attending their inauguration. The temple has an immensely soothing and calming effect on me.

Yesterday on Diwali it was a great feeling to  have  my younger daughter home for the festival. Being in the Hospitality sector i was very anxious whether she would get leave. Leave she got, albeit for just one day. But it sufficed and we were all immensely happy  to be together as a family on the greatest Hindu festival.

Yesterday i along with my two daughters lit diyas in the temple just like many other neighbors and aftert hat we performed the Diwali Pooja at home.

  In the Autumn of my life little moments of happiness give me immense joy. And while i wait for my remaining drams to come true, I am walking at a leisurely pace, knowing  that Almighty will surely fill my life with unexpected reasons of happiness.

sSo here i sit,  living one moment at a time.

I think this is the best phase of my life. Before i grow old .It is time to bask in the faith in the Almighty and wait for remaining surprises to unfurl.

I quote Albert Camus:

Autumn is a second spring when every leaf is a flower.

Have you experienced the Autumn of your life?


Sunday, August 4, 2013

SHE and Friendship Day

We all know HUGS are an expression of Love. Affection. Appreciation. Honor. Liking, Acceptance and so much more.

Today on Friendship Day i made a   discovery. A beautiful one at that.

21 January is National Hugs Day.

  What makes is day special for me is that, 21 January is the birthday of my elder daughter.  The day was announced in 1986, exactly a yea BEFORE my darling elder daughter was born. 

For sometime now, we have been hearing  about the benefits of Hugging.

Lets do  a little exploring TODAY.

National Hug Day or National Hugging Day is an annual holiday created by Rev. Kevin Zaborney. It occurs on January 21 and is officially recognized by the Hugging Committee of the City of London, as well as the United States copyright Office.

 The holiday was launched on January 21, 1986 in Clio, Michigan, USA, and has since spread globally. The purpose for the holiday is to encourage everyone to hug family and friends more often.

 Whether you hug a family member or a friend or a stranger, the mental and physical health benefits are the same.


Studies have shown that HUMAN CONTACT  has many health benefits. It has been found that human contact improves both PSYCHOLOGICAL  and PHYSICAL  development.

 HUGGING  can also help build a good immune system, decrease the risk of heart disease, and DECREASES  levels of the stress hormone CORTISOL  in women.

 It has been shown that a couple who hugs for 20 seconds has higher levels of OXYTOCIN , and that those who were in a loving relationship exhibited a highest increase. According to the American Psychosomatic Society, a hug or 10 minutes of holding hands with a romantic partner can help reduce stress, and its harmful physical effects

.In a study, adults who had no contact with people had higher blood pressure and heart rate. Other studies have indicated that the TOUCH of a friend might not be as helpful as the touch of a partner but should not be avoided.


The FREE HUGS CAMPAIGN  was launched in 2004 long after the launch of National Hug Day. The Free Hugs Campaign involves people giving HUGS  to RANDOM people on the street. The premise of giving a hug to someone to LIFT  THEIR SPIRITS is the commonality that National Hug Day shares with the Free Hugs Campaign.

 However, National Hug Day has one specific day that encourages people to give out hugs throughout the year, whereas the Free Hugs Campaign can be organized at any time during the year. The Free Hugs Campaign has received a lot of media attention over the years,

Now,let us talk about SHE.  Who is SHE? someone w know? someone akin to our own self? Someone we already are? someone we aspire to be? Bingo

For SHE  was born  TODAY for me.  I am quite the Hugging type. But post realization that my elder daughter was born today i created the acronym.

SHE stands for :

So today, my readers, you too take a pledge to become SHE.That SPECIAL woman who   spreads Love. Laughter. Joy. Peace. Serenity.  And above all GOOD HEALTH, via her HUGS

Give Hugs. Let the OXYTOCIN flow and weave MAGIC of GOOD  HEALTH

Adopt the SHE Mantra this Friendship Day. And the Mantra is:

Say NO to Cortisol.  Say YES to OXYTOCIN. Say YES to HUGS

 May your tribe increase by leaps and bounds

Happy Friendship Day to all !!!

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

The Spiritual Life : GURUPURNIMA

Today is Guru Purnima. 

Guru Purnima  is an Indian festival dedicated to spiritual and academic teachers. This festival  is traditionally celebrated by Hindus and Buddhists, to thank their teachers. It is marked by ritualistic veneration of the Guru, Guru Puja.

 The Guru Principle is a thousand times more active on the day of Gurupournima than on any other day.

  The word Guru is derived from two words, 'Gu' and 'Ru'. The Sanskrit root "Gu" means darkness or ignorance. "Ru" denotes the remover of that darkness. Therefore one who removes darkness of our ignorance is a Guru.
In addition to having religious importance, this festival has great importance for Indian academics and scholars. Indian academics celebrate this day by thanking their teachers as well as remembering past teachers and scholars.

Traditionally the festival is celebrated by Buddhists in honour of the lord Buddha who gave His first sermon on this day at SarnathUttar Pradesh,India. Hindus celebrate it in honour of the great sage Vyasa, who is seen as one of the greatest gurus in ancient Hindu traditions and a symbol of the Guru-shishya tradition. Vyasa was not only believed to have been born on this day, but also to have started writing the Brahma Sutras on ashadha sudha padyami, which ends on this day.

What is it about Spirituality that has attracted man since civilization? be it the Greek Gods, the Egyptian Gods or the Indus valley civilization.  The presence of God and veneration of the Almighty is as old as civilization.

 Man has been drawn to Great Saints like Buddha or reincarnation of Lord as Ram or Krishna or the eternal Lord Shiva.

A bent towards spirituality can happen at any age of a person's life. It is said that every Saint has a past and every sinner a future.

Today is Monday, a day dedicated to Lord Shiva. Today is also Guru Purnima, which makes this day very auspicious. In my neighborhood temple a vendor was selling packets of flowers, bhang leaves, dhatura and otther leaves which are offered to Lord Shiva, especially on Mahashivrtri. I too offered flowers fruits, milk and other leaves dear to Lord Shiva.

But the surprise of the day came towards the evening. A friend  who had lived unhappily and   distress most of he life, successfully completed Vipassana  course at the  ripe age of 55.  In her words,

 "It was a life changing experience"

What is it that drew religious leaders like Jiddu krishnamuty , Osho,  Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada,   of ISKCON movement towards spirituality?

Why is it that whenever we enter a place of worship we are overwhelmed  by a sense of awe, veneration and  peace and calm?

In today's time the Gen X has multiple issues. Life has become complicated unlike what it as for us when we in our twenties. Perhaps the two major issues facing h Gen X is career an relationships.

What  Gen X needs is Spirituality as an anchor. Dalai Lama was absolutely right is saying that 

"If we teach our children to meditate , we can eliminate violence in one generation"

We need to revamp our school curriculum

Issues like Secularism, Gender equality and Spirituality need to be taught form the tender age and reinforced till higher classes.

For me the reward of the day was the good news about my friend. It has rekindled my own faith in the 
Almighty. As long as there is Spirituality on Earth there is hope for Humanity..

Happy Guru Purrnima to all.

Thursday, July 18, 2013

Acid Attack : 2013 Ruling

Lakshmi, an acid attack victim
Of the many atrocities leashed on women across our country, besides rape, eve teasing, stalking, sexual harassment at work, there  is the case of acid attacks on women.

Pretty often this horrendous act is committed due to a woman thwarting advances of an obsessed  lover.

Since there was no strong law for this heinous act, the culprits have gone free or been subjected to a bare minimum punishment. This in turn encouraged mo men to perpetrate this crime.

Due to absence of  strong law, there is no clear data available.

Recently  a Mumbai victim, Preeti Rahi succumbed to her injures after a month long battle  with acid burns.  Her last words to her family, conveyed by writing on slips of paper was. as to how they would bear the cost of medical expenses if she was shifted t a better hospital.  But that never happened as she died before she could be shifted.

Another victim Lakshmi, who was attacked by acid  merely on refusing to marry a suitor at the young age of 15 has been a crusader for acid attack victims.

Thanks t her eight year long struggle, today Supreme Court issued a landmark judgement.

 Today,Supreme Court directs state governments to pay Rs 3 lakh as compensation to each acid attack victim; SC says Rs 1 lakh to be paid within 15 days; SC asks state governments to bear all treatment and rehabilitation costs.

in addition to the rehabilitation costs  the sale of acid has been regulated   Only licenced retailers will be allowed to sell acid an they have to maintain a photo identity of the customer, besides  noting don the address and purpose of buying acid.

Kudos  to Lakshmi .  Looking forward to more such stringent rules by SC for women's  safety.

Sunday, July 14, 2013

Malala Day

To all the cynics, this sixteen year old girl empowers the world through her speech at the UN on her birthday.

Malala's Birthday on July 12 is now celebrated as Malala Day throughout the world

Goodness will always triumph over Evil.

Thank God for this!

Wednesday, May 29, 2013

The Abuse of Power

The above quote rings true.

Very often people in power forget their beginnings. Forget fairness. Even forget GOD.

And then begins the cycle of  abuse of  power.

abuse of power need not be only in Politics and government

One can see its many shades in all arenas of life.  ans the person who is most affected by it is the common man.
  The common man who works hard to make ends meet. The one who tries to follow the path shown by our illustrious forefathers.

But is CHANGE around the corner?

We have a SANJAY DUTT preferring to surrender in face of the country's judgement instead of ngling for a way out.

We have a Rahul Gandhi openly questioning his mother's 'Soft' policy.

with the IT revolution can we hope to bring about a radical change  in the minimum possible time?

Perhaps ALL that is required to remember some of what we were taught in schools.

And TEACH all that wasn't taught  but needs to be taught.

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

An Evening with Vir Sanghvi


The PERKS of Blogging :)

An evening spent with Vir Sanghvi at The elite club of Terminal 3, Indira Gandhi International airport with Vir Sanghvi, as part of a promotion of Delhi Duty Free shop.

Sunday, May 12, 2013

The COLDNESS within

My greatest blessing in life has been my parents. It is they who not just gave brought me to this world but gave their last breath to raise  their four daughters. While they made sure that our every material  need was taken care of within their budget, my father recited stories from scriptures, used proverbs to covey realities of life and above all taught us values.

I feel blessed to belong to the VATSA clan. I thank  my ancestors.

Coupled with the values given to us by my parents, was the wonderful environment of Bamruli where i grew up. It was a colony way ahead of its time. Very open, very modern, very Cosmoplitan and thriving with life and postiivity.

It is the combination of my parents's upbringing, the happy growing up years in Bamrauli and an ever abiding deep faith in the almighty which has shaped my life.

I was a happy, innocent girl till the day i got married  I was totally unprepared for the atrocities that life would throw my way. As i trudged along my unhappy married life, it was my upbringing that saw me through  As the difficulties kept escalating i wondered where GOD was. Or how he could afford to be such a callous onlooker.

After a twenty year old journey God manifested himself in my life. In the form of a stranger.

And thus began a new phase in my life. but this too was extremely difficult, fraught with mental agony, stress, patches of darkness. The only difference as that every time my faith was temporarily shaken, i would pray to God and  without fail  get strength  and go on ill the next hurdle came along. cos i had seen proof of God in my life.

slowly by slowly i figured  out my destiny.

Having experienced God's presence in my life, i feel each day is a gift. Like today. It is mother's Day. I had overlooked this till i was reminded by my  laptop.

I feel that Hinduism is one of the richest religions in the world. But it is also a paradox. The religion that worships Godesses and Devis has a history of ill treating its women.

Be it Sita 

Or Draupadi

But all is not lost. There is hope. This morning i came to know about a  unique temple in  Uttar Pradesh. It is situated between Allahabad and Varanasi, in a place called Sitmarhi.  This is the place where Sita went underground after her exile in Valmiki Ashram.

Here is a 108 feet long statue of  Lord Hanuman , with folded hands  asking Sita Mata to forgive everyone and not leave them behind.

Thank you Vishal Rathod for sharing this. Today. On Mother's Day.

Undoubtedly the most significant relation in this word is a MOTHER. She not only nurtures life inside her, gives birth  to a miracle and showers unconditional love to her offspring.

Thanks to the Western culture, we can cerebrate such a day in India too. I feel a society should not be closed. while celebrating its own uniqueness  it should be open to  learning  and adopt good aspects of other cultures. Moral policing and fanaticism should be banished form society. It is only then we shall grow and prosper and prosper as human beings.

Now coming to the  title of this post.

I feel that all wrongdoings in this world arise froms COLDNESS of heart. The coldness that we let live in our hearts. Instead of love, compassion and empathy.

As a rule i avoid driving. But whenever i have to , i do drive in Faridabad.

 i love going to temples early morning as i find the experience  very uplifting. For a long time i have been going to Mata Vaishno Devi's temple is NIT Faridabad.

Yesterday i went their  around 10 am when there was high traffic on Mathura road. As i made my way, i saw  a little boy, barely five  year old with an empty water bottle in his hand, begging the waiting cars for money. As i looked toward my right my attention was caught by another five year old boy sitting on the pavement. I was stunned by what he was doing. he had a broken piece of a marble mortar, a stone and a rope. This was his toy. and he was content wit that.

As i looked at these two little  boys my heart stopped beating for a second .  i wondered whether i would have reached where i am today  if my childhood had been spent begging and playing with stones on the pavement.

yet we all turn a blind eye to such realities of life. All because of the COLDNESS WITHIN.

The day we admit he thee coldness in our heart, we shall TEAR DOWN OUR IVORY TOWERS  and try to make some semblance of justice in this world.

This is my message on Mother's Day.

Sunday, May 5, 2013

100 years of Indian Cienma :

On May 3 , 100 years ago, Indian cinema's first full length feature, Raja Harishchandra was released. The silent film, directed by Dadasaheb Phalke, marked the beginning of the nation's longstanding affair with cinema. And a 100 years later, filmmaker Shivendra Singh Dungarpur decided to tell the world the story of a man who was never a filmmaker but made films his entire life. His documentary feature, Celluloid Man, celebrates PK Nair, the founder of National Film Archive of India — a man Indian cinema owes more than it has ever acknowledged.

Saans me  teri saans mili to
mujhe saana aayi, mujhe saans aayi.....

Rooh ne choolli  jism ki khushboo
tu jo paas aayi, tu jo paas aayi

What is in a movie? A slice of society. A slice of history. A slice of emotions. A timeless saga. A heart wrenching love story.

Indian Cinema is in complete without dance and music.

Personally for me . i have to thank Gulzar Saheb for the touching lyrics of the song

 sans meain teri saans mili to......

Shreya Ghshal and Mohit Chauhan for the velvety voices............

And SRK and Katrina for the larger than life  cinematic performance

and Yash Chopra for making this poignant, beautiful, haunting love story. Your last Yashji, and debatedly one of your career best.

Personally for me, on 3 May, the song Saans  strangely revealed  the TRUTH of my life, almost. Love Indian Cinema!

Wishing Indian Cinema a g lorious 1000 years!

Saturday, April 20, 2013

Shivers of SHAME

As i pack my bags for a much awaited holiday, my enthsiasm has vanished due to the rape of five year old Gudiya.

 I feel defeated.

The vigor of  nationwide protest of  the Delhi Gang rape has become meaningless   We thought we had woken up as a nation. As a civilized society. But even the nation wide protests have failed to safeguard women. It does not matter whether she is three months old or fifty. Indian or a foreign tourist. The brutal rape of body and mind of women and tender girls  in our nation  has not ceased.

The euphoria i felt at having attended a stimulating power packed International Women's day at British council where a cross section of celebrities  International NGOs, youth , Bloggers , a Rock band had come together to raise awareness against violence towards  women , now  seems to ring hollow.

The brief  relief i felt at the passing of the Anti Rape Law seems  meaningless now.   After all what can be expected when only a small section of politicians deemed it necessary to be present on the vital voting day.

Who is irresponsible for the cold blooded act of rape of a five year old girl? Locked for two days . Screaming for life.  With a bottle of oil and broken pieces of candle inside her vagina.

In my post INDICHANGE :   An EQUAL Life     , i had written that rape is not about  hormones. It is not about sex. It is not about erotica. Some sections of society had criticized Nirbhaya for venturing out at night. How then do you explain the abduction, rape, torture of five year old Gudiya?

It is about a patriarchal mindset. It is about Violence against women. It is about complacency.   It is about weak laws. It is about immune politicians. It is about US. You and me. And above all it is about the prevailing society we live in.

As i write this post only two stains of relief soothe my anger. The first that Gudiya has been declared out of danger. Secondly that the joint efforts of Delhi Police and Bihar Police have caught Manoj the culprit.

But how many timed do we have to raise our voices for basic human dignity for women. How many times do we have to brave the Police lathis and  bear slaps of Police officers for protesting against injustice?

Obviously all that that has been done is not enough.

NOT ENOUGH i repeat.

We need to keep crating pressure for strict laws.

We need to  have laws to HANG every rapist in  our country.

Perhaps, only then will the perverted, callous, unimaginably twisted psychology of a rapist mind will be held at bay.

But will mere Hanging as a punishment for rape stop rape? Absolutely not.

In the wake of Gudiya's brutal rape, every activist, lawmaker and politicians is realizing that the answer lies WITHIN  us. We have to CHANGE  as a society. change our thinking. Act RESPONSIBLE
What are we teaching our children today?

That Munni is badnaam

Shiela is jawaan

Babli is badmaash.

While you and i return from the movie  hall and get on with our lives, there are men from low cadres of our society who carry this message with them. It pollutes their thinking. As long as there is disparity between the urban and rural, the literate and the illiterate, the poor and the rich, we can't afford item girls.

 We have to stop objectification of women.

Teach gender equality at home and in our primary schools.

What we currently feel is SHIVERS of SHAME.


.This and only this will curb and eventually weed away rape from our country.

Indiblogger, you recently hosted Women Indiblogger meet in Bangalore and Mumbai.

I think it is time for a DELHI Indiblogger meet for WOMEN.

As Bloggers we will all come together, raise our voices, and share our pain. AND give out suggestions of rape free India.

Renie Ravin, i am waiting...........................

Monday, April 15, 2013


We have all grown up knowing the Rudraksha mala for Jap.  Did you know that the fruit is an intense deep blue? i did not know until today.

 Rudraksha is believed to be the direct blessings of Lord Shiva.

Here are some facts on Rudraksha:

. Rudraksha is a Sanskrit compound consisting of the name Rudra ("Shiva") and akṣha ("eyes").  

It  is a large evergreen broad-leaved tree whose seed is traditionally used for prayer beads in Hinduism.

 The seed is borne by several species of Elaeocarpus, with E. ganitrus being the principal species used in the making of a bead chain or mala

 The specific epithet ganitrus is possibly taken from ganitri, the name for this species in Sundanese and Malay.

Rudraksha grows in the area from the Gangetic Plain in foothills of the Himalayas to South-East Asia, Indonesia, New Guinea to Australia, Guam, and Hawaii.

Rudraksha seeds are covered by an outer shell of blue color when fully ripe, and for this reason are also known as blueberry beads. 

The blue colour is derived not from pigment but is structural.

 It is an evergreen tree that grows quickly. Rudraksha Tree starts bearing fruit in three to four years. As the tree matures, the roots buttress rising up narrowly near the trunk and radiating out along the surface of the ground.

The pinkish buds  change into white blossoms

The seeds show variation in the number of grooves on their surface, and are classified on the basis of the number of divisions that they have.

 Different qualities are attributed to the rudraksha based on the number of grooves, or 'faces' that it has.

 A common type has five divisions, and these are considered to be symbolic of the five faces of Shiva. It can only be worn with red string or a gold chain.

Rudraksha Mala has been used by Hindus as rosary at least from the 10th century  onwards for meditation purposes and to sanctify the mind, body and soul. 

 The mythology that surrounds the Rudraksha is that the Hindu god Shiva meditated on the welfare of all mankind and cried tears of compassion, peace and joy.

 These tears upon hitting the earth crystallized to form these seeds

 The divine qualities of this bead were first noted in ancient Hindu scriptures. 

They bless one with peace of mind; protect against evil doers and spirits; and bless with peace and prosperity.

Rudraksha fruit is blue in color (hence the other  name blueberry )

 but turns black

 when dried. 

The central hard Rudraksha uni-seed may have 1 to 21 faces.

 research conducted by a group of scientists of Banaras Hindu University in coordination with Department of Biochemistry, Electrical Engineering, Psychiatry, General Medicine and Psychology have proved the powers of Rudraksha scientifically with reproducible results which proved that Rudraksha have electromagnetic, para-magnetic, inductive dia-magnetic and dynamic polarity or the ability to change its polarity.

 It has also been shown that Rudraksha have anti-ageing properties based on their electromagnetism.and also have ayurvedic properties.

It also offers a protective shield to the human body.

 Rudraksha beads have many other powerful properties in transforming one's personality and outlook in a positive way.

The most appealing about the power of Rudraksha is that it is worn by the lord Shiva as an ornament in his zata (locks of hair),

 as necklace, as wrist band and armband.