[This post is dedicated to my daughters]
Dear Anjouri and Surbhi,
Having a Blogger Mum comes with side effects. Too many sermons :). But i promise to control my maternal instincts and not bore you. But this Valentine day i decided to dedicate a post to both of you.
This Valentine Day instead of talking about red hearts, cute teddies and deep red , long stemmed roses, i shall share with you a few life truths. These are by no means the ultimate. As each one of us experiences life in our own way. You owe it to yourself to make your own decisions and experience life your own way. But a little gyaan from your Mum would not hurt for sure.
Let today mark the ending of one episode of your life, with a BEGINNING of a new one. Embrace CHANGE . Be open, but be SMART too. I dont have to tell you to be kind and compassionate because that you already are. You just have to be TRUE to yourself.
Never live in DENIAL.
Never ignore that little voice inside you. Your INTUITION Your basic instinct Your first untossed reaction to an event or a person. Because it is 99.99% TRUE. TRUST your thought process before it gets diluted by DOUBT or your soft nature.
By doing so, you CUT short the HAPPINESS you are due. The happiness you deserve. Life is too SHORT to drag bullshit. Bullshit deserves to be treated with exactly that : BULLSHIT, and a NO NONSENSE attitude.
Remember in Life, BALANCE is very important.
Balance between Joy and Sorrow. For every life will surely have a mix of the two.
Balance between careful planning and spontaneity. Sometimes it is all about going with the GUT feeling.
Balance between Expenditure and Saving.
There will be times when people will be unkind. They will hurt you. Your faith will be shaken. But only for a while. Life will bounce back. And you will surely SMILE again.
Believe in karma. Do good. Oscar Wilde said, " To love oneself is the beginning of a life long romance".
Further, Lucille Ball said, 'You really have to love YOURSELF to get anything done in this world". I might add, that you also need to BELIEVE in yourself.
Remember, the GREATEST gift we humans have been given is the promise of a NEW day, to start afresh, with new vigor, new strength and with LESSONS learnt along the way.
On a BAD day, it is important to hold on. Hang on there. When the problem has been gnawing at you whole day long, it is the easiest thing in the world to snap, retaliate against your better judgement. You just need to allow yourself to be hurt and angry. The trick is to sleep over the issue and see things in new perspective the NEXT MORNING. There is something SACRED about early MORNINGS. A brand new day with immense possibilities. You can choose to be positive or negative. Obviously choose POSITIVE.
CHERISH you close ones who stand by you in thick and thin
Marcel Proust said, "Let us be grateful to people who make us HAPPY. They are the charming gardeners who make our souls BLOSSOM".
Now a little bit about dreams and expectations. We all have dreams . And many come true. Some don't. What happens when life does not serve you what you desire. It passes by your most intense dream? Shock. Disillusionment Sadness. And could be worse. It is here we need to have shockers to bear the agony out. FAITH in the Almighty. Just be kind to yourself and say, " It did not work out. Never mind. I am not going to make this disappointment the be all and the end all of my life. I will get past this. This too shall pass."
So, PRAYERS will get you from DISAPPOINTMENT to ACCEPTANCE.
HUMOR is the spice of life. A great STRESS buster.
And some Gender Equality :)
So this Valentine day love LIFE! Happy Valentine Day!