Sunday, March 2, 2014

Turning 50 : A Celebration!

The clock has just struck  midnight. a new day is born. but for me it is not just any day, but a very exciting one. For i turn 50 today. The last time i was so excited about a birthday was when my younger daughter turned 21 and i had blogged about it. 

If New Year is a time to retrospect, turning 50 is a much BIGGER time to retrospect. perhaps the most fulfill part of turning 50 is that you have walked on this earth experiencing every possible emotion. From pits of darkness to heights of ecstasy.

So how do i feel? There is only one way to describe it. I am loving my  SECOND INNINGS.

In Agatha Christie's words:

“I have enjoyed greatly the second blooming… suddenly you find – at the age of 50, say – that a whole new life has opened before you.”
Some highlights of my half century.

25 Highlights of my Half century

Motherhood: Being a Mum to my two girls. Learning to live with them through their journey of becoming an adult. Learning to let go them and make their own choices in life.

Lost and found: After being cut off from my univ class mates i met all of them thanks to Facebook. Such a hugely wonderful feeling.
Parenting Lows : Experienced the pain of seeing your children go through difficult times. The utter helplessness as you cant do much to ease the situation.

Parenting Highs: Watching your kids realize their dreams as if there were never dark moments.

Painting: Thanks to my generous hubby, he indulged my love of paintings. Every room in my home has a painting or two.

Celebrations: While here have bee many  the three biggest ones were my parents Golden anniversary, Our silver anniversary and our univ batch mates 25th Reunion.

Travel tales: have traveled to almost all religious places in the country. Shirdi, Golden temple, Tirupati, Mahakumbh,  Amarnathh, Meenakshi temple in Madurai, Vaishno Devi in Katara, Sidddhivinayak, Haridwar, Rishikesh, Badrinath, Varanasi, Yamunotri,  Dwarka. 

More Travel tales: From an all women' cruise to family vacation in the country and out of country i have done it all.

Spirituality: I was always God fearing an a die hard believer in the Almighty, thanks to my parents but turned  deeply spiritual a couple of years back. Now Prayers and meditation are a daily routine.

Conquering darkness:  have gone through some deep dark times but emerged victorious and found both Hope and Light.

Family. When i see young people losing their parents, i feel blessed tha ti have celebrated my 50th a midst my parents.

Blogging: The most wonderful thing. paved my way to being an author. Met innumerable like minded people. Soon will be completing 4 years of my Blogging journey.

Becoming an author: My debut Travelogue gives me joy not just for becoming a writer but more so for sharing my spiritual experiences

Career: Though not a working woman today, i have had experience of being one. Today i am happy with my status of being a    part time blogger and part time  writer and a Homemaker.

Appreciation. Got awarded for being a Blogger.

Combating jealousy :   For too long i was the soft spoken girl. So much so that a few jealous people tried to create havoc in my family life. Then finally i rose like the Phoenix and tackled them head on. Today they will not attempt such evil deeds even in their dreams. There is a time for everything :)

Activism : It was sheer joy to participate in an all women's Safety walk from India Gate to Rashtrapati Bhawan and getting the then President Shrimati Pratibha Patil to sign a petition. Also participated in protest for Nirbahaya. Designed a Logo and am i to do my bit for women empowerment.

Nostalgia no more : For close to 35 years two places haunted me. Phagwara and Allahabad. Phagwara is my place of birth and where my Mum grew up and my Nana Nani lived. Allahabad was where i spent the first formative years of my life. Recently i had the good fortune of visiting both the places with my family. Walking on those very paths and nooks and corners where i spent some extremely happy childhood. God has been kind :)

Giving back: It was joy unbound when i gifted a set of childcare's books to my KG school and a painting to my Alma mater St Mary's in Allahabad. 

Acceptance : It takes a while to accept the situations life hands you. But once you get there, it  is a light walk.

FB the stress buster: What would we DO without Facebook?. It makes us go through a kaleidoscope of emotions. Inspirational quotes, Activism articles, humor, love, nature and travel pics, sharing thoughts as status updates, celebration, condolences we experience a gamut of all this and so much more.  The trick is to not let it run your life, but keep coming back to it for  happy stress free moments,

Detox: Besides drinking lots of water, and including generous  portions of salads and fruits in your diet to detox your body, it is important to detox your life too. Any relationship that refuses to become positive needs to be severed, no matter if its your kith and kin. Because you can only change yourself, the other person's unwillingness to change leaves you with no choice but to move on without them.

Becoming a Mother-in-law:  This was one dream i had nurtured for a long long time. Anjouri was engaged to Mayank and wee had a great family dinner with family and Mayank who was also family.

Letting Go:  Today is a time to let go of all the negatives that happened till yesterday. I begin a NEW golden chapter of my life, having turned a magical 50.

Counting My Blessings :  I do not know what tomorrow holds, but TODAY i have so many things to be grateful for. Thank You God!

50, people say is middle age. But i guess you are as old as you feel. While i am rightfully a Mum to two young women i do feel young at heart. may be this has to do with my genes. My  Dad is a happy 85 year old . I feel i have experienced almost every emotion, every hue of life till now. I am content at being 50 and i feel  my remaining  years are going to be a bonus. I may lie for 5  years or 35 like my father, but i am going to take one day at a time. There is joy in slowing down, knowing that you have just not allowed life to pass by but have actually LIVED through s plethora of emotions and situations.

I feel age is just a number.A statistic. You are as old or as young as you think. In Sophia Lorens's words:

“There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of the people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will have truly defeated age.”

And as Les Brown said:
“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.”

I too have some more dreams to achieve, but God has been very kind. 

Perhaps the best is yet to come :)

And i believe in this: